Dear Tom,
I think of you often and frequently pray for you. I was so happy that the work situation worked out well for you, especially the way you got to go to the job you wanted.
You asked for tools you could use to build your new life. All I have to share is my own [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-In every situation, I have the choice between telling myself a negative story or a positive story. Experience tells me that the positive story is far, far more likely to be true.
-When I limit my negative imaginations and encourage my dreams, I open many good doors for myself.
-How many times [...]

There are two types of language that as a boy I was taught were bad language. The first was taboo language, the second was taking God’s name in vain. I am not certain which type of bad language was the most frowned upon. I suspect that “Oh fuck” would have been more harshly received than [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-Spirituality instead of religion means that surrounded by friends who encourage me, I get to work out my relationship with my Higher Power in any way that works for me and Her. It sounds dangerous, but is instead, fraught with possibilities.
-First I had the hard lesson of learning to say [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-Before program, I did not know how to sort my problems into little problems and big problems. I made every problem, no matter how small, into a disaster.
-Being myself requires that I accept being different and also accept it when I agree with everyone around me.
-If I get that what [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-Assuming the harsh parent role with myself perpetuates my character defects.
-No matter how often I change my circumstances, I can’t escape me. If I like myself, that is good news.
-I need to share at a meeting often enough to keep my volcano self unloaded.
-Don’t try to be the biggest frog [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-Zestful, vivid, challenging, evolving, humorous and sexy, are all words I want to be true of my life.
-Without my program, I have willpower in regard to food. No matter how full I am, I can eat more. Without my program,
-I can trust myself around food. I can trust myself to [...]

Dear Ruby,
I am looking at my beautiful little display of roses. I have had it about 5 years I think. The uninformed might say that the flowers are artificial, that they are not real. What do they know?
The people who gave them to me have beautiful roses in their back yard. The roses in their [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-If I am to surrender to God, I have to give up being a victim.
-In my disease, my territory is your mind.
–If nothing changes nothing changes.
-Apart from my program, my hope is based on an illusion.
-Many of my most tempting illusions were given to me by the media I use [...]

All my life, I have felt a deep loneliness. The persistence of the loneliness has been frightening. It has seemed to me, that the consistent loneliness was inarguable proof that something was wrong with me.
I tried to talk myself out of the lonely feelings. I tried to uncover wounds out of my boyhood that [...]