The following ideas have helped me. These ideas have been developing over the years but came together at a wonderful meeting in which “Boundaries” was the topic.
-Boundaries can be developed as I become acquainted with and willing to communicate the secret thoughts that in the past I was too frightened to mention.
-The first thing I [...]

-I do better with boundaries if I develop my boundaries with the help of my sponsor.
-The first thing I need in order to set meaningful boundaries is a powerful determination to be myself.
-The most basic boundary is giving myself permission to say no.
-In setting my boundaries, my need to explain why I set the boundary [...]

Jill’s Mom, Jerelyn, who is my ex-wife, was a few months pregnant with Jill when we were deciding to move from the East Coast back to California. At the time, we already had one daughter, our adorable two year old Gina The decision to move was a tough one for me to make. I was [...]

From the age of seven  until the age of fifteen, I lived in Coronado, Ca. which means we lived there from1945-1953. Coronado is called an island but it is actually connected to the San Diego area  by a narrow strip of sand called The Silver Strand. Coronado, which is across the bay from San Diego’s [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-I have learned that my Higher Power does not want to change me as much as She wants to help me actualize the wonderful person I already am, beneath all the fears and shame.
-Surely goodness and mercy will follow me all the days of my life” means whatever choice I [...]

Comments on “God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change.”
-I do not have an acceptance switch I can flip when I am struggling. For me, meetings, my sponsor, and phone calls are the tools that most often restore my serenity
-Serenity is never thought up or worked up. It is always granted [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-Back then, things looked good, but they were actually bad.
-I was so empty on the inside that the winds of life howled within  me.
-As the facts change, I change my mind.
-Instead of setting my own boundaries, I set other people’s boundaries in an effort to make my self feel safe.” [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-Before my program, I had friends who were really acquaintances and acquaintances that turned out to be enemies.
-Sometimes I are so caught in who is right and who is wrong that I forget what is right and what is wrong.
-My relational assumption, used to be that you are out [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-I find that the joy of my life depends upon the quality of my thinking.
-The trouble with my being a bullshitter is that I am strongly tempted to believe my own stuff.
-The dirtiest thing I have ever done is hanging on to my prejudices.
-If I am terrified into doubting [...]

The following ideas have helped me.
-My people pleasing, is a classic example of a character asset becoming a character defect when it is not managed. It is an asset that I know how to please people. Also, program people pleasing me has taught me that I am loved. For me, pleasing people only becomes a [...]